Archive for the ‘Intentions & Goals’ Category

Discover who you were meant to be – by Barbara Babkirk – September 5, 2017

Friday, September 8th, 2017

Pearl In Open Shell

I was organizing a bookshelf recently and came across an article by author and activist, Parker Palmer, titled “Now I Become Myself.

I took time out from the task at hand to read my newfound treasure. While I believe I had read it before, the article had particular relevancy on this day because of a career counseling client with whom I had just met.

Palmer wrote that we spend the first half of our lives abandoning our essential talents and true nature in quests for approval and ill-fated attempts to establish ourselves in the world.

The sense of a “lost self” increases with age and reveals itself in career and work choices that don’t align with who we are meant to be. That could certainly contribute to the current high incidence of dissatisfaction in the workplace.

It is predictably at midlife and beyond that we find this discrepancy unacceptable and set out to reclaim “the person we’ve always been.”

The serendipity of my finding Palmer’s piece just after meeting with a 42 year old client was uncanny. Jen, as I’ll name her, had just come in stating that, after spending decades in the workforce just “falling into jobs”; she was now excited to take charge of her career.

She was ready to do the work of retracing her life’s path and recognize the truths about herself that would inform new options for her work in the world.

In making connections beyond the obvious about what we’ve done and who we are, we uncover gems that reflect true facets of ourselves.

These treasures can provide precious clues that reveal who we are meant to be and broaden how we see ourselves in the world.

Take Charge of Your Career in Six Steps by Barbara Babkirk – July 21, 2017

Friday, July 21st, 2017

Therebigstock--162279116’s a trend I’ve noticed over the years as a career development professional. Somewhere in the 40s decade, people are often inclined to take action on their careers. It’s as though they feel an internal prompt, rather than an external motivator.

“I just fell into my career and I want to be more planful going forward. If it’s going to happen, it needs to be now.” That’s a common statement that the 40-something clients make.

If this describes you, then perhaps the following six steps will help you shift from a passive to a pro-active approach to your work life and career path.

  1. Take stock of what you want from work in this stage of your life. Ask yourself if your competencies, interests and values are adequately met in your work and workplace. If not, then consider negotiating another arrangement or consider a job search to work that is more aligned.
  1. Be mindful of your assumptions about what’s possible. Keep in mind what you want as outcomes, not what you fear.
  1. Understand the professional value you bring to the marketplace and seek out opportunities to communicate it verbally (meetings, performance reviews), virtually (with a great LinkedIn profile) and in writing (effective emails, outstanding resume, crisp cover letters).
  1. Create opportunities to increase your visibility with your clients, prospective clients or employer.
  1. Stay current with best practices in your field and be innovative in presenting new ideas and practices. Be prepared to communicate your knowledge of trends in interviews or in professional conversations.
  1. Consistently attend to your needs. Take time to replenish your energy so you’ll be in good shape to seize the next best opportunity.

 

 

How to shift your fears in any transition – by Barbara Babkirk – May 30, 2017

Tuesday, May 30th, 2017

Beautiful Butterfly.The fear of the unknown that’s inherent in any transition can take its toll on even the most courageous.

There’s just something about a blank slate of possibilities that prompts creative minds to conjure up lists of “what if” scenarios—most of which reflect our fears and impact our hearts and minds.

Not a week goes by that I don’t hear clients expressing trepidation about their career change that’s based entirely on what they fear will happen, as opposed to what they hope will occur.

Any transition involves facing the unknown and that typically triggers anxiety.

While you may believe that your negative projection into the future is necessary to feel prepared for anything that might occur, it actually works against you.

This often spontaneous and habitual thought process is a waste of time, energy and attention because it is likely to interrupt your momentum or stop you in your tracks.

Successfully maneuvering through a transition requires nimbleness and openness to possibilities. Fear elicits the opposite, and has you “pull in the wagons of your life” in anticipation of some threatening outcome.

When you consciously think about what you desire, you create an effective alternative to the scenarios that typically make you want to hide under your bed covers.

I’m not suggesting that you just “think happy thoughts”, but rather, that you focus your attention, breathe, and get clear about the intention and desired outcome(s) for your transition.

While you cannot control all aspects of any change, you can control your thinking and your response to your transition.

In doing so, you will shift your attention from what you don’t want to occur to more appealing prospects. With this shift to a more trusting mindset, you should feel calmer and more able to move forward and complete the tasks that will make you successful.

 

 

Eight Tips to Increase Your Professional Value by Barbara Babkirk – January 1, 2017

Sunday, January 1st, 2017

bigstock-140370929If you’re typical, you may have difficulty recognizing what you do well. In fact, if a skill comes easily to you, you probably take it for granted. The mindset diminishes the impact you have on your work and work environment. Here are tips that might help you reconsider your strengths and contributions.   

  1. Be vigilant to your highest values and priorities and boldly live them! Align your life between what you believe and value and what you do.
  1. Increase your visibility to your clients, customers, colleagues and people to whom you report. Understand the value you add and don’t be shy about it.
  1. Regularly take stock of what you want from your work. Annually assess if your interests and values are being adequately met in your current work. If not, negotiate another role, or consider alternatives in the marketplace.
  1. Update your resume and LinkedIn profile to reflect best practices for presenting your professional self. If it’s been a while since you’ve done this, consider meeting with a career counselor who knows effective strategies.
  1. Clearly and concisely communicate your competencies backed up with results-focused examples of when you’ve demonstrated them.
  1. Be mindful of your assumptions about what is possible. Keep in mind the outcomes you want, rather than those you fear might occur.
  1. Stay current with best practices in your field. Be prepared to communicate your knowledge of trends at professional meetings and networking events.
  1. Take good care of yourself. Make time to replenish your energy so you’ll be in good shape to recognize and pursue the next best opportunity.

May you value and celebrate your contributions in the New Year!

When loyalty puts well-being at risk – by Doug Babkirk – November 4, 2016

Friday, November 4th, 2016

Loyalty PuzzleIn my executive coaching work I often hear clients, especially Boomers, talk passionately about being fiercely loyal to their work or employer. In a recent session with a client who wanted to rethink her work priorities, she spoke of how difficult it was to say “No” to co-workers who were asking more and more of her in her leadership role. She was conflicted: she loved the praise and admiration from others who appreciated her skills and wisdom; and yet, she was resentful, exhausted and feeling adrift in responding to everyone’s requests. “I am just too loyal to everyone. I always have been. I can’t continue to work this way.”

As I listened to her story, I wondered about the importance of loyalty in her life and asked, “How are you loyal to yourself?” which then led to a rich discussion of how she had always placed the needs of others before herself and gradually lost herself along the way believing that loyalty to others precluded being loyal to herself. In our time together she began to see how she could work differently by: partnering with others; questioning if the request from co-workers was truly a priority; discerning if and how the request could be done differently; and questioning if it reflected the highest and best use of her time and skills.

By giving herself the time and space to pause, reflect and re-think her commitments to others and to herself, she began to establish a new framework for working with greater ease and awareness of what truly matters.

  • How does loyalty show up in your work?
  • How are you loyal to yourself? To your values? To your priorities?

“If you want to do your best for future generations of humanity, for your friends and family, you must begin by taking good care of yourself.”     Tarthang Tulku Rinpoche

Feeling stuck in your career? Try these steps. – by Barbara Babkirk – October 25, 2016

Tuesday, October 25th, 2016

I can do it

What’s on your career “to do” list that you keep putting off?

Is it updating a resume that’s ten years old? Sending an email to a colleague to ask for introductions? Attending a professional meeting and risk having to tell someone you’re not working or unhappy with your current job?

While it may seem that these tasks are benignly hanging out on a list, they are, in fact, zapping your energy just by being in queue along with other obligations.

When you postpone some action you need to take, you’re not really free from it because it will occupy your thoughts until you act on it.

Completing the task may be simpler than you imagine.

Typically, procrastination is not rooted in poor time management or lack of discipline, but rather, in how we’re framing the action we need to take.

For example, if you need to tap contacts in your career field, but aren’t sure what to say, you might convince yourself that no one will want to help you. With that mindset, there’s no use in making the effort—and so you don’t.

Or, you might need to update your resume or improve your a LinkedIn profile, but you’re unaware of current best practice or how to convey your professional value. So, you make up a story that you’re not really employable which zaps any motivation to move forward.

The following five steps can help you shift from inaction to action and empower you to take charge of your career:

  1. Recognize the career-related task/s you are delaying.
  2. Be honest with yourself about what’s behind your inaction. Is it fear or a lack of knowledge that is keeping you stalled?
  3. Sort out the facts from what you’ve assumed or made up. Do a reality check and/or ask for some help about how to proceed.
  4. Break the task down into manageable steps with adequate timeframes for completion.
  5. Seek help from a professional if you need facts and help getting started and moving forward.

 

 

The key element in a successful job search – by Barbara Babkirk – August 24, 2016

Wednesday, August 24th, 2016

key_to_success_banner1Stop winging it with random networking emails or calls and posting and praying (your resume that is).

Start creating your strategy– and the practice of communicating your professional value – verbally, virtually and in writing.

I’ve found that many job seekers can pull off one of the above, but it’s rare that someone has their act together in all three ways of being strategic in their job search.

Here are tips for creating a winning strategy:

Verbally – Use talking points to practice conveying the following:

  • Your current status (keep it short and sweet—no lengthy explanation of why you’re leaving your job or much less about why you lost your job because you did not see eye to eye with the new leadership).
  • The skills and competencies you want to put to use in your next opportunity
  • An interest in the challenges your contact faces that require those skills and competencies
  • Advice about others with whom you should be meeting and a request for an introduction to someone

Virtually – You must be present in an effective way on Linkedin (90+% of people sourcing talent look there first)

  • Populate the key areas of your profile that pull on searches: your headline (which most people underuse with a job title rather than who you are in the marketplace and the impact you have) and a summary that tells a short story about who you are, what you do and why you do it.
  • Bring your profile to “expert” or “all star” status by making sure your profile is complete with recommendations, a photo, summary, a few groups and an appropriate headline next to your photo.

In Writing – People fret over cover letters, but it’s not necessary!

Use the job description as your guide and select the most pertinent (according to your skills and prospective employer needs) requirements. Then clearly state when you’ve demonstrated those requirements. Keep in mind that most employers have a check list that they use to screen applicants. Save them time by addressing the criteria clearly with good examples.

Over 50, looking for a job, and concerned about your age? Don’t be. by Barbara Babkirk – October 11, 2015

Friday, October 9th, 2015

Ageism Gets OldMy career counseling specialty is the boomer demographic and most of my clients have two things in common: they have worked for decades in a primary career and they are afraid that their age will hinder their search for new work.

My job is to help them get to the heart of the matter: identify what they want to do, what they have to offer and how to land a job. In order to begin that work, I often have to give them a reality check about their fears.

So I ask: Have you heard that 30% of Maine’s population is between 50 and 70 and that a third of that group is poised to retire?

The “older boomers” nearing 70, will create a significant gap in the marketplace as they officially disengage from paid work. It’s clear that employers will need to think creatively and inclusively about how to fill positions and get the jobs done. It will be the naïve hiring manager who lets age discrimination get in the way of a good hire.

So, avoid second-guessing any prospective employer about how they’ll view your age, and focus on what’s sure to be an asset: your cadre of pertinent skills, experience, and relevant education and training.

The initial way to present this information is via Linked in and a professional résumé. As you put your best foot forward virtually and in writing, avoid any indicators that will hint that you are not current in your skills or knowledge of the marketplace.

Here are tips for conveying your knowledge about current best practices in the job search:

  • More than 90% of people seeking to hire use Linkedin as a key resource to identify talent. Create a winning Linkedin profile that includes a summary “story” about your background and skills. Be sure to customize and include your LinkedIn URL on your resume. (We have a LinkedIn specialist on our team who offers LI workshops three times a month.)
  • Avoid unnecessary, extraneous information on your resume like “references furnished upon request”, personal data such as “married, 2 kids” or a list of your hobbies.
  • Include only the years of past employment and not the months that detract from more important information.
  • Provide concise information about your experience; show results whenever possible and use strong and descriptive verbs to delineate your experience.
  • Avoid including the year you graduated from college or graduate school. Keep them guessing about your exact age.

With a pro-active approach and positive mindset, you will shift from fears about your age to focus on finding a great match between your skills and job target and marketplace options.

Find the pause button and get the clarity you need by Barbara Babkirk – September 29, 2015

Tuesday, September 29th, 2015

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I recently saw a client I’ll call Anne, who was stressed from overworking—a very common issue these days. She had made the decision to quit her job within a year and wanted to discuss options that would allow for better balance in her life in her next position.

After exploring the issue more in depth, it became clear that Anne was not really in a place to imagine possibilities. She was depleted and not feeling very expansive in her thinking. Anne admitted that the options that came to mind would put her back in the same pattern of overwork.

While her job was hard to manage, she had developed a pattern of saying yes to practically any request that came her way, causing her to feel resentful and tired.

In spite of having accumulated several weeks of vacation, Anne’s work had taken over her life and she had not even thought about time to renew and regroup.

Rather than explore her next work options, we discussed taking time—three consecutive weeks in fact, to renew her spirit and get some much needed R&R.

The other strategy we discussed had to do with how she responded to requests. Her habit of saying yes came from a place of wanting to be of service and needed, but was getting in the way of her experiencing down time or evaluating the way she was spending her time at work.

Anne agreed to experiment with “finding a pause button”. When a request came in, she would, whenever possible, get the information she needed and tell the person she’d get back to them the following day. She would sleep on it and “be with” the request. She would allow some feedback to bubble up from the inside out and let that influence her ultimate decision of how to respond.

I’m confident that shifting the “yes” pattern and taking time to rest and renew will both support Anne’s desire to find new work and a different way of working.

 

 

 

 

How to deal with things you can’t control by Barbara Babkirk – September 9, 2015

Wednesday, September 9th, 2015

You have choices in life that you may not always recognize…like whether or not to worry or obsess about not having a job or the slow response from prospective employers.

Even when you feel like you don’t, you often have options that can influence the process and perhaps shift the outcome of a situation—it’s all in your response.

By focusing on what is happening externally, you are likely to overlook what’s going on within you—such as your attitude and feelings—two things over which you have direct control.

You can have a direct impact on what you think or how you feel—unlike the impact you may have on what goes on around you.

Recently a friend recounted her experience in an airport, missing flight after flight home due to weather conditions. She first felt frustrated as though something was happening to her. While in a sense, this was true, it finally occurred to her that it was also true that she had choices as to how to spend her time and whether or not to be annoyed or good natured about it all.

Tensions ran high as passengers heard the news: no flights were coming or going. For the most part, she saw few people making lemon out of lemonade. They had all unconsciously decided to have a particular mindset about something external to them they could not change.

No matter the circumstances of your life, don’t overlook your attitude or your feelings. By shifting your attention, you might be surprised that you feel better by taking charge in some small way of what’s happening around you.

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